Archive for January, 2011

Initially I wanted to use the word “we” in the title but then I started thinking…  Am I one of the only ones who do this?  I don’t think so but I didn’t want to make that assumption.  Maybe “like crap” is too harsh of a term but in general I do not take care of myself the way I should.

I wasn’t always this way.  In my 20’s I took great care of myself.  I got my nails done every two weeks, my hair was cut every 8 weeks or so, and I went to the gym at least 3 times a week.  While I was by no means a “fashionista”, I used to enjoy shopping and I had nice clothes.

That all changed when I had my daughter at 28.  It didn’t happen all at once, but gradually over time.  It seemed that in many ways I just didn’t care about myself the same way.  My wants and needs became her wants and needs.  Her father and I got divorced when she was four and up to about four years ago it was just her and I.  I was actually really happy during that time.  As she got a little older I began taking care of myself again.  It wasn’t about looking good so I could date as I really had no interesting in dating for a long time.  It was simply about feeling good about me and being happy.

I guess you could say round two came; I met someone, we dated, he moved in, and we decided to have a baby together.  Yet again I was last on my internal list of priorities.  My son will be three next month and I haven’t been to the doctors since my 12 week post baby check-up.  My 37 year old sister-in-law was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer late summer but do you think I would process that devastating news and get a mammogram?  Of course not.  Really, now stupid can I be?

It was my 14 year old daughter who really sent the message home that I deserve better than how I treat myself.  We were at the mall two weeks ago and Victoria’s Secret was having their semi-annual sale.  They had big bins of $12.99 bras so I picked out a few.  As we were going to pay for our stuff my daughter was at the register next to me.  When one of the bras I had rung up at full price I was told it was not one of the ones on sale so I told the clerk I didn’t want it.  Money wasn’t the issue, it was just not worth it to me even though I really liked it.  My daughter said “Mom, if you want it I will get it for you” and tried to hand me $20 of her Christmas money.    How amazing is that?

I’ve decided that it is time to treat myself better and take better care of myself.  Well, for me I guess that is easier said than done and I need some baby steps.  I did schedule a doctor’s appointment (Feb 7th) and I called to get the referral for the Mammogram so that is a start.  Remember last week I posted that I was getting a mani/pedi to celebrate my 5 lb weight loss?  Well, it didn’t happen.  My daughter had an all day cheerleading competition on Sunday and I felt too guilty about leaving Garrett our some with my boyfriend for so much this weekend.  Another excuse I told myself is that I needed another week to get a paper cut on my cuticle to heal.  What crap is that?  Why the guilt?  I used to think it was good old fashion Catholic guilt, but the truth is I wasn’t raised that good of a Catholic.    Whatever the reason, it stops now.   Mani/pedi here I come.   While my good treatment of myself may start off as a reward, I will work on it becoming a permanent part of my routine.

The airlines got this one right when they tell you to put the mask on yourself first, and then take care of your child.  We need to take better care of ourselves so we in turn can take care of those around us.

Please tell me I am not the only one?  I really want to hear from you.  You all have been so great and I would not be doing as well as I am without you.  Do you realize so far we have a 100% sucess rate?  Nobody has dropped off and everyone has continued to lose weight/body fat!  You guys are AWESOME! 

If someone wants to write a blog to post please just let me know.


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First I want to thank Lynn for allowing us to piggy back off her wonderful blog.  They say that one of the best ways to change your lifestyle and or lose weight is to have a great support system.  I know personally I would not be doing as well as I am without this support system, I would have gone back to my old bad habits after the first week.

One thing I realized I had in common with many in the group is that I tended to beat myself up a little if I had a bad day.  I didn’t even realize I was doing it until someone else would post that is how they felt after they “cheated” or god forbid had a piece of cake.  It was like a little light bulb went on!  Why do we do that?  If you have a bad day it is OK.  It is just one day!  It doesn’t undo all of the good you’ve done.  Forget about and move forward.  We need to accept that these days happen.  Remember, 1 lb per week!  That was what the majority of us are striving for.  This is not a sprint, it is a long journey.  If any of you haven’t started yet but still want to, just jump right in when you are ready. 

I know I feel better about myself already.  It is not necessarily the 4 ½ lbs I’ve lost, it is just a general sense of feeling better, having more energy, and a little more pride in myself.  How about you guys?

I also want to thank those that have posted here and have given us great tips, shared their challenges, and more or less just help us all feel we are not in this alone.   If anyone wants to write a blog here please just post a comment and I will send you my e-mail.  Remember this is a group effort!!

We can do this! 

From California35

1. Drink plenty of water
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a price and dinner like a beggar
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s – Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Make Time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2010
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7-8 hours
10. Take 10-30 minute walk every day, and while you walk smile.


From True Life Diva

There is a site called Fit Bottom Girls, and it is really funny.  It has some great information and if you chose you can sign up for their daily e-mail.  This e-mail serves as a little daily reminder for me to stay on track.  Here is the link:  http://fitbottomedgirls.com/

  1. Turkey Chili
    My own recipe with a nutrition/calorie breakdown using Self Magazine http://www.NutritionData.com calculator. For some reason the original calculator wouldn’t let me add the info for the chili seasoning mix but in the end it would only equal less than 5 calories per serving. Taking that into consideration this recipe comes out to be approx. 35 calories per once or 125 calories per 100 grams. Enjoy, it’s good eats

Two packets chili seasoning mix, 1 mild, 1 hot

Dry Black Beans
8 ounces
Dry Kidney Beans
8 ounces
Dry Red Beans
8 ounces
Dry Pinto Beans
8 ounces
Corn, sweet, yellow, canned, whole kernel, drained
311 grams (11 oz can)
Onion, raw
8 ounces
Ground turkey
2 lbs
Tomatoes, red, ripe, canned, stewed
56 ounces

One Bell Pepper, chopped

Soak dried beans overnight. Chop onions and bell peppers. Brown ground turkey. Add two chili seasoning packets to ground turkey. Add chopped onions and bell peppers. Add stewed tomatoes. Drain corn and add to pot. Add beans after draining. Add enough water to cover. Simmer on medium for 6 hours. Add salt, cayenne pepper, crushed red peppers, and cumin to taste.


From Dr. Oz posted by California35

Dr. Oz’s 5 Ways to Outsmart Food Cravings

Know your kryptonite.
There are two types of craving foods, said Dr. Oz. Those we can occasionally eat a bit of, feel satisfied and are done. And those that have you licking the crumbs from the bag then tearing apart your kitchen hunting for more. Everyone’s craving foods are different, so figure out what sends you on a food bender, then steer clear. Knowing the foods that you’re powerless around isn’t weak, it’s smart. “Mine is chocolate-covered nuts,” admitted Dr. Oz. “I can go through a gallon of them, and I’ll just be getting started. I know that, so I don’t have them near me if I can avoid it.”

Keep junk food out of the house.
You’re less likely to gorge on chips or cookies or candy if they’re not readily available in your pantry or fridge, so you do yourself a huge favor by not even bringing them home from the market. “Out of sight, out of mind is the best way,” said Dr. Oz. “You don’t even think about them.” But on those days when all you can do is think about double chocolate chip cookies, “go to the store and buy a snack-size amount,” said Dr. Oz.

Find a healthier substitute.
You may be able to fake out a craving and avoid the extra calories, fat, salt and sugar by eating foods that are close to what you’re jonesing for. Craving sweet? Dates are naturally very sweet, as are grapes, prunes, raisins and dried figs. Need something creamy? Try a low-fat Greek yogurt. It’s lower in sugar than other low-fat yogurts, and you can mix in some blueberries or honey for flavor. When you need a salt fix, reach for a dill pickle. “You get the crunch and the salt without the fat and calories of chips,” said Dr. Oz.

Strike a bargain.
Make this deal with yourself: You’ll set a timer for an hour, and when the time’s up, if you still want what you want, you can have a small amount. Then find something else to do for that hour — rearrange your sock drawer, go for a walk, comb through your kids’ closets for clothes and toys to give to charity. Whatever helps you fill the time so you’re not watching the clock. It’s a good deal to make, said Dr. Oz. “Most cravings don’t last more than 20 to 30 minutes, so by the time the hour passes, you may have solved your problem.”

Cleanse your palate.
There’s a reason fancy restaurants serve sorbet between courses — it cleans your taste buds so you can enjoy the next dish without being distracted by the flavors from the dish that came before. Use this same tactic to quell a craving. “Brush your teeth, gargle with mouthwash, chew some gum. Nothing tastes good after you have that minty taste in your mouth,” said Dr. Oz. And if you have given in to an indulgence, doing any of these things can “clear your palate so the food taste doesn’t linger in your mouth, making you crave more,” he said.

Call a pal (or check the blog)
We often rummage through the kitchen for a quick feel-better fix when we’re stressed or angry or sad or vulnerable because comfort food equals emotional comfort is something we learn as children. “When you’re a child and you’re unhappy, you’re often satiated with something fatty, like mother’s milk or bottled milk,” explained Dr. Oz. “That creates a loop — unhappiness equals fattiness equals happiness — that gets learned and reinforced at a very fundamental level in your brain, even before we can verbalize it.” The trick to not eating when you’re feeling emotional is to find another source of comfort, like a good friend. “Venting to a friend is a much more waist-friendly way of relieving stress,” said Dr. Oz.

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Here is my first attempt at starting the blog to keep track of our fitness goals, share our success, get support, and inspire others.

I wanted to start this journey with the many wonderful people I have “met” on Lynn’s blog.  I felt by sharing our experiences and simply having someone to answer to we would have more success. 

I am not a nutritionist or a private trainer; so please do not assume I am an expert on this subject.  I am simply a woman who isn’t totally happy with her body or her fitness level.  I was a competitive athlete at a high level when I was younger.  First as a gymnast for many years starting when I was very young.  I was a Level II gymnast until a catastrophic neck and back injury around the age of 13.  I played both Field Hockey and Lacrosse in high school, and continued playing Lacrosse for Old Dominion University.  Wow, back then I was so in shape and had a kick ass body.  Unfortunately I had one of those fathers who always felt I wasn’t thin enough, fast enough, or strong enough.  He was my “trainer” and all though he did good things for me physically; it took its toll on me mentally over the years.  I only tell you this because I do know a good bit about the physical (nutrition and exercise) aspects of getting fit as well as the mental aspects of feeling you are not good enough.  Now I pretty much compare myself to a polar bear.  I am very strong and have a lot of muscle, it is just nicely protected by a layer of fat.

Losing weight in itself is not rocket science; simply burn off more calories that you take in.   Does everyone know what a calorie is?  Its official definition is: a unit of heat equal to the amount of heat required to raise the temperature of one kilogram of water by one degree at one atmosphere pressure.  More basically put, it is the energy potential in food.   That’s it… its energy.  There are so many different theories on how to lose weight but if you remember the simple concept of burn more than you eat, you will lose weight.  The complexity comes in when you think about how to burn these calories more effectively.  I will write about that later but remember I am not an expert. 

We are through the first work week one of our journey to a better “us”.  It has been great seeing so many posting their suggestions and tips for the group and as we continue I will be adding them here. 

This is the whole group’s blog, so if you want to post something, just let me know in the comments and I will e-mail you.  You could be the “guest blogger” if you will.  It could be a little story about you and why you want to get into better shape, your goals, some tips you have, just let me know.

I hope to see some positive results posted here on Monday.

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